A Not So Random Encounter

Some people will walk out of your life no matter how you try to make them feel that they are loved and appreciated. And that is something you cannot stop and control. Nor something you should be embittered about.

At some point in your life, you will meet someone you will get so attached into. He could become a friend to you, a sister or a brother you never have, a life-coach, or even a lover. You could get so close and connected to them that just when you thought everything could last forever, it falls apart.

“What went wrong?” “Did I do something that caused them to fall back?” These are some of the few questions that will haunt you whenever someone “ghosts” on you. Or whenever a blooming friendship or relationship suddenly turns sour.

Truth is, God lets certain people come into your life because you needed them. Maybe you were too confused that you needed someone to clear things off your mind and give you peace, maybe you were wounded and you needed someone to help you heal, maybe you were lost so someone guided you, maybe you were too busy to actually “exist” so someone helped you get a “life” and have some fun or maybe you felt so alone that God reminded you that you never were. These people you randomly met -that sometimes you get so attached to- were sent by God with a reason and a purpose. And sometimes whenever they have served their purpose, they vanish like bubbles in the sky.

Normally, you get really embittered about it esp. when you have invested too much of your life -time, effort and emotion- on them and then suddenly, boom! They are gone by the wind. So you try to seek answers and trap yourself into the blaming web, you either blame yourself for being so needy and clingy or you blame them for being so selfish -leaving you just like that. However neither of these will make a difference. Because that’s just what it is. They were never meant to stay in your life forever. They were only meant to have a stopover and leave a trace when things get better.

Of course it is but fine to be sad or to mourn about that failed friendship or broken relationship. But do not try to realign the stars and rewrite the stories by chasing those people who have chosen to walk away in your life. Or mending a toxic relationship or friendship just so you could keep someone in your life. When you do this, you are not only prohibiting them but also yourself to grow as a person and experience life in a different perspective. So learn to let go of them and be at peace with the fact that if they were meant to stay in your life, no matter what happens they will find their way back to you.

For quite some time you may not see the positive results of why you have to lose certain people in your life and yes that sucks but have faith that at the of the day all the pieces of the puzzle will come together. Then you will see that

you have to meet those people in your life “temporarily” so you could be the best version of yourself for those people who are meant to stay in your life forever. ♥